December 16, 2024
Well, here we are again if you are lucky enough. We are about to close the books on 2024, and start a new ledger for 2025. Every publication, news show, and podcast will have their best-worst moments of the year in sports, politics, and movies, and we will have numerous retrospectives on lives well-lived. It is also the time of year when we start thinking about New Year’s resolutions. If you didn’t complete your resolutions in 2024, the good news is you get to roll them over. If you did, you have the unenviable task of coming up with new ones. This is my attempt at an unsolicited advice column. Here are some thoughts and strategies I have culled from many years of teaching goal setting to young hires, developing business plans for seasoned veterans, and being an exercise instructor.
When making resolutions for the New Year…
Be Specific: For example, saying you are going to exercise more is not a goal; it’s an aspiration. Rather than saying “I am going to go to the gym,” commit to how many times you are going to go.
Be Focused: You don’t need to have multiple resolutions. Research shows that very few people actually achieve their goals. Make just one resolution, and focus on it. If you are killing it, make it more difficult, or start working on another one. Remember that habits do not die quickly, especially bad habits.
Be Realistic: You don’t have to set climbing Mt. Everest as a goal. Pick something that is attainable. If it’s too easy, ramp it up. Setting unreasonable expectations is a resolution killer.
Be Creative: Mix it up, keep it fresh. It’s easy to get bored doing the same routine every day. For example, if you are a walker, try walking in different locales like the local track, the park, a bike-rail trail, or a different neighborhood.
Be Disciplined: Write down your goal. Put it into your daily planner, or your iPhone. If it isn’t written down somewhere, it doesn’t exist. Treat it like any other appointment. If you cancel, you must reschedule. Remove any obstacles to getting it done. Sometimes, the hardest part of any workout is just getting there.
Be Accountable: Go public. Tell a friend, a family member, a colleague et. al. Put yourself on notice. Peer pressure can be a wonderful thing.
Be Competitive: Challenge yourself, or challenge someone else. Try to push the envelope just a little every day. Make it a game. It doesn’t have to be a drudge.
Be Good to Yourself: Milestones don’t have to be millstones. Reward yourself along the way.
If you are not sure about what to focus on, here are some generally accepted goals for wellness and happiness.
Don’t Smoke: Smoking is the number one cause of cancer and a lot of other bad stuff.
Watch Your Drinking: Even small amounts of consumption can have negative consequences.
Maintain a Healthy Body Weight: Your BMI (Body Mass Index) should be 25 or below. Avoid fad and yo-yo diets, and intense restrictions. Sanjay Gupta says “Stay SHARP”
S – Slash the sugar
H – Hydrate
A – Add healthy foods
R – Reduce portion sizes
P – Plan meals ahead
Prioritize Movement: Incorporate movement into your daily activities. For example, take the stairs, don’t park too close to the store, and don’t use a golf cart. Motion is lotion.
Practice Coping Mechanisms: Develop healthy ways for dealing with stress.
Keep Learning: Read, take a class, learn how to play bridge, develop a hobby, try dancing. Join a book group. Do something outside of your comfort zone.
Cultivate Healthy Relationships: The longer, the better.
If you are not sure what to focus on, ancient Hindu teaches us about the stages of life. The first is youth, which is dedicated to learning. The second is when a person builds a career, accumulates wealth, and creates a family. In this stage, people become attached to money, power, sex, and prestige, and try to make this stage last a lifetime. The antidote to this is the third stage, usually coming around age 50, in which we purposefully focus less on professional ambition, and become more and more devoted to spirituality, service, and wisdom. Your life goals should adjust accordingly. This sets the stage for the last stage.
The last stage of life should be totally dedicated to the fruits of enlightenment. As we age, we should resist the conventional lures of success in order to concentrate on more transcendentally important things. Make these part of your 2025.
Happy New Year and enjoy the journey.